103: Practical Questions For Counseling Conflicts

What You'll Discover in this Episode:

Conflict Resolution:
Practical Questions For Counseling Conflicts

These are questions you could ask the party you are in a conflict with, or questions you can lead two other people who are having a conflict in asking these questions between themselves and talking it out.

Questions:

1. Is there anything I have done or have failed to do, that is contributing to the conflict?
   
2. What is it I could do (or not do) to help us get along better?
   
3. Maybe when I said ___________, you felt ___________.
   
4. I want to bring about a biblical resolution to this: can you tell me what you thought when I said ____________  (or did __________.)
   
5. Can I understand your thoughts and feelings so we can work through them in a better way?
   
6. Maybe in the future I can say things differently? Can you help me with ideas on how I could say it better?
   
7. Have we done anything to make this issue worse, that we could have resolved sooner?
   
8. Is there anything I need to ask your forgiveness for?
   
9. Is there something I could do differently in order to help us resolve this problem?
   

In order to resolve a conflict, the parties involved need to learn and walk through talking it out/sharing their hearts/ and reaching an agreed resolution of the issues going on between them. One of the goals is to get the parties involved speaking politely to each other and opening up. Another goal in counseling conflicts is to try to resolve the conflict in the shortest amount of time. The longer a conflict goes on, the worse it is going to get. The sooner the parties involved can work together, the smaller the conflict will be in the relationship, and the parties will be on the way to reconciliation.

Tell us in the comments what worked for you? What didn't work? What's a major victory?