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141: Conflict Resolution God's Way
Hindrances to Resolution
Conflict resolution is an important part of your counseling ministry. When a conflict happens, there’s a temptation to respond inappropriately. We want to learn more to respond biblically.
Always remember, change comes by the power of God. You can find people who want to force legalistic pressure upon you or onto the people we are trying to help. But it must be the work of the Holy Spirit. Give room for the Holy Spirit to work. A lot of times, prayer is what God is calling you to do in response. Pray that God by His spirit will bring sanctification and resolution.
There are chapters in the Bible that teaches a lot of truth on how to handle conflict: what to do and what not to do, right responses versus sinful responses. It’s important that we go through these as we are training to be biblical counselors.
God gives a list of fleshly, sinful behavior we should avoid as Christian and a list of behaviors we should exhibit as Christians. There are short passages in the Scriptures which are an extensive list of conflicts we can curate and look at the different dynamics of relationships (church, work, home life).
We know that we cannot produce a Godly life on our own. In terms of conflict, it must source with God above working upon us, in us and through us.
Remember, this is not a list of rules. We have a relationship and not a rules-based relationship with the Lord. Read these often. Be familiar with them and be practical about them as you work through conflicts.
4 sections of scripture a biblical counselor should be aware of:
As a biblical counselor, your number one place to be equipped is in the Word of God. You’ll be surprised at what it will do to revolutionize your discipleship and counseling.
- Learn God’s word
- Drawing near to God yourself
- Walk in the great benefits of a relationship with God
This will turn into an ability to help others.
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Biblical Response Verses Covered in this Episode
- Ephesians 4:1- have a walk worthy of the calling with which you were called.
- Ephesians 4:2- with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love.
- Ephesians 4:3- endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
- Ephesians 4:15- but, speaking the truth in love
- Ephesians 4:16- from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies
- Ephesians 4:24- and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.
- Ephesians 5:1- be followers of God as dear children.
- Ephesians 5:2- walk in love
- Ephesians 5:21- submitting to one another in the fear of God.
Unbiblical Response Verses Covered in this Episode:
- Ephesians 4:3- Disunity: we should endeavor to keep unity in the body, and to keep bonded together in peace.
- Ephesians 4:14- that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting,
- Ephesians 4:17-20- no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk...having given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness…
- Ephesians 4:22- that you put off, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts,
- Ephesians 4:25- put away lying, "Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,"
- Ephesians 4:26-27- "Be angry, and do not sin": do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.
- Ephesians 4:28- Let him who stole steal no longer,
- Ephesians 4:29- Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification
- Ephesians 4:30- do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God
- Ephesians 4:31-32- Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.